Can You Really Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back?

Are you coping with a break up? This can be a very painful and difficult time. Your heart is broken and you want to make it better. You also have questions over why the relationship ended.

The reason your boyfriend broke up with you may have nothing to do with you. It could have been because of something going on with him. Don't blame yourself. Do a little soul searching on your own but don't take full responsibility for the break up.

If you're hoping for a reconciliation with your ex, it can take some time. It needs to be something you take seriously and are committed to. If you're willing to do this, it must be genuine and sincere. Remember to stick to these tips:

1. You may not feel attracted to other men at this point but jealousy is a powerful motivator. Flirting with other men in front of your ex may make him see how desirable you are and reconsider.

2. Don't call or text him constantly. This goes double for contacting him via facebook. It will make you look desperate and needy. This will only reinforce his belief in the break up.

3. When you do get back together, don't push him for a full committment. He may not be ready for such a big step. Take your time and enjoy being together. Keep it relaxed and casual.
 

If you feel that the chances of getting back together is slim, then you need to continue on with your own journey.

A good therapeutic exercise is to write your feelings down in a letter or journal entry. You can share your anger, sadness or memories as a way of resolving things. Then after you have poured out your feelings, burn the letter. I know it sounds silly, but it works.

Your next step is to return personal belongings. You should also promise each other that you won't have any contact for at least a month. Both of you need time apart. You can't heal your soul if you are seeing or speaking to him every day.

Break ups are always painful. Remember that this isn't the end of everything. You are now embarking on a new chapter of your life. Try to be positive during this time and let go of all the negative feelings from the break up.

Even though you have gone through a break up doesn't mean it's completely over. If you believe there is a possibility of getting back together, then you should absolutely go for it.


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