5 Easy Tips to Get Back at Your Ex

Relationships can be delicate things at times. If we don't nurture and love them, they can fall apart. Sadly, break ups happen, and they are upsetting and stressful. If you've had a break up, you may want to get back at your ex. Is this a healthy action? One of the best ways that you can get back at your ex is by letting them see how important you were to them. I've listed five tips below to do just that.

1 - Socialize. Hang out with friends. Staying home and sulking will only make you feel worse. If you're dwelling on your problems, things can appear more dire than they actually are. Spending time with old friends or making new ones is very important at this time of your life. It will give you stability and also take your mind off your ex. This solution has two benefits: it will help you and it will make your ex want you back.

2 - Limit your availability. One of the best ways of getting back at your ex is to limit talking to them. Don't cut off all lines of communication, but you shouldn't be available to them night and day. Let them see what life is like without you for awhile. You'll be surprised how well this tactic works. Taking a break has been known to work wonders. Remember, absence makes the heart grow fonder, as Thomas Haynes Bayly famously wrote.

3 - Stay strong. Don't be clingy. If your ex sees you as desperate, this will only make them less likely to want to be around you. Show signs of strength and confidence. Don't beg or appear weak, this is very important. Show them that you have moved on by appearing strong and put together. Once they believe you have moved on, it will make them want you back. This is a little bit of reverse psychology and it works like a charm.

4 - Be flexible. Don't be overly strict with your ex. If you show them that you are willing to be flexible, it will let them know you are trying to improve things. This is especially important if in your relationship, you were unwilling to bend a little. Never make demands or tell them they have to do something by a certain time. This never works. Flexibility is the key here. Listen to their complaints and take them seriously. Showing a new side of yourself to your ex is one of the best way of getting back at them. This will also make your ex reconsider the reasons for the break up.

5 - Be yourself. I've outlined some tips you can do to change things but don't change too much. Your ex fell in love with you for a reason. Show them that person again and make them remember the good times early in your relationship. Many times, people get back together after recalling the the reasons they fell in love. Give it a try and it should help with the break up process.

I hope these tips will work for you. When we are going through a break up, we feel completely alone. Hopefully, this will show you that you are not alone and help you on your path of dealing with a break up.

Can You Really Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back?

Are you coping with a break up? This can be a very painful and difficult time. Your heart is broken and you want to make it better. You also have questions over why the relationship ended.

The reason your boyfriend broke up with you may have nothing to do with you. It could have been because of something going on with him. Don't blame yourself. Do a little soul searching on your own but don't take full responsibility for the break up.

If you're hoping for a reconciliation with your ex, it can take some time. It needs to be something you take seriously and are committed to. If you're willing to do this, it must be genuine and sincere. Remember to stick to these tips:

1. You may not feel attracted to other men at this point but jealousy is a powerful motivator. Flirting with other men in front of your ex may make him see how desirable you are and reconsider.

2. Don't call or text him constantly. This goes double for contacting him via facebook. It will make you look desperate and needy. This will only reinforce his belief in the break up.

3. When you do get back together, don't push him for a full committment. He may not be ready for such a big step. Take your time and enjoy being together. Keep it relaxed and casual.
 

If you feel that the chances of getting back together is slim, then you need to continue on with your own journey.

A good therapeutic exercise is to write your feelings down in a letter or journal entry. You can share your anger, sadness or memories as a way of resolving things. Then after you have poured out your feelings, burn the letter. I know it sounds silly, but it works.

Your next step is to return personal belongings. You should also promise each other that you won't have any contact for at least a month. Both of you need time apart. You can't heal your soul if you are seeing or speaking to him every day.

Break ups are always painful. Remember that this isn't the end of everything. You are now embarking on a new chapter of your life. Try to be positive during this time and let go of all the negative feelings from the break up.

Even though you have gone through a break up doesn't mean it's completely over. If you believe there is a possibility of getting back together, then you should absolutely go for it.


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