Get Your Ex Back: 3 Tips to Get The Love Back

After a breakup, you can feel completely destroyed. You may feel alone and be very upset over what has happened. The trick is not to give in to these negative emotions. Staying positive will do you a lot of good. If you truly believe that the relationship can be salvaged, the followig tips may be able to help you.

The first tip I have for getting your ex back is to let go of the past. You can't go back and have the same relationship. That is over. Grieve, cry, scream or do whatever you have to so you can vent your loss. Realise that if you and your ex are to have a future, it will be a new relationship. Prepare to begin anew.

Secondly, you need to sit down and think on what the problem(s) are in your relationship. Be honest with yourself. Is it really possible for the two of you to get back together? If it is a real possibility, you have work to do. The problems need to be resolved before you can start over. Accept that you have some blame in the breakup. This is hard to do if you were dumped or treated unfairly, but remember, it takes two to fight. Once your prpblems are addressed and solved, you can begin starting over.

My last tip is to be open to your ex and their feelings. Listen to each other. Really listen to what your ex is saying and where they are coming from. Try to put yourself in their shoes and look at the problem from their POV. This is a great way in learning to understand and empathize with each other. Most problems can be worked out with some work and understanding on both your parts.

After a breakup, a man's ego will suffer. If you are the man in the relationship, you can testify to losing some confidence. If you are the woman, you need to realize that your ex is feeling insecure and upset about the way things turned out. If you really want to get him back, flatter and encourage him. It sounds superficial but it works. If you accept part of the blame in the breakup, it will give him a boost. This will help you get him back.

There are many ways to get your ex back. What you need to do is really tackle your problems and resolve these issues. Don't try to change each other, but be accepting of your partners faults all. Focus on improving yourself and fixing the problems in the relationship. This is the best way in getting your ex back and starting over.

Book Review: Relationship Rescue

I recently read the book Relationship Rescue by Phil McGraw PhD. The following is my review. The Dr. Phil show is very popular with helping people in confronting and solving their problems. His book is in the same POV as his show. That is, find the real problem and fix it. It's written in a very no-nonsense style that is refreshing in a sea of relationship self help books.

Relationship Rescue suggests that you receive marital or personal counseling to help you. While that is a good idea in theory, some of us can't afford or are not able to see a therapist. Dr. Phil urges couples to confront their problem(s). If the issues are ignored, then the relationship will only continue to wither away.

Dr. Phil's method teaches both partners to work on their relationship. He stresses that they need to put a lot of effort into saving their love and to expect their partner to do the same. If you believe that your partner is the reason for the problems in your relationship, Dr. Phil advises you to look at your own motives and issues.

Relationship Rescue gives the reader many questions to answer regarding their relationship and problems. It is very in depth and will help you to analyze and focus on what is wrong. This is not a quick fix. You need to be serious about this or it will fail. It will take a lot of work on both of your parts to be successful.

Relationship Rescue advocates both partners changing their POV of the relationship. It's important to be optimistic about your relationship with your partner. If you are pessimistic about your relationship, your problems will seem worse than they really are. You should focus on the good things and stay upbeat.

As on his show, Dr. Phil relates a no B.S. tactic to helping people. He's honest that this will take work if you really want to save your relationship. Dr. Phil has a proven track record with helping those in crisis and bringing them back together. This is a recommended book for those serious about avoiding a break up.

Recommended Books To Help With A Break Up

Some good books to read to help you with a break up:

The Magic of Making Up

The Relationship Handbook

We Love Each Other but... Simple Secrets to Strengthen Your Relationship and Make Love Last 

Love Is a Choice: The Definitive Book on Letting Go of Unhealthy Relationships






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